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Couples Therapist: “The One Rule Every Relationship Must Live By” - Stan Tatkin -#1146

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Couples Therapist: “The One Rule Every Relationship Must Live By” - Stan Tatkin -#1146

Modern Wisdom

13 HOURS AGO
Modern Wisdom

Modern Wisdom

13 HOURS AGO
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Dr Stan Tatkin is a psychologist, couples therapist, researcher and author. How can couples effectively navigate and repair emotional wounds? While many believe it’s best to sleep on a conflict, could repairing the rupture quickly actually be healthier? W...

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Stan Tatkin explains why lasting love depends less on fluctuating feelings than on deliberate relationship design, rapid repair, shared purpose, and practiced ways of protecting one another under stress.
00:53
Love must be earned daily
03:38
Feelings cannot carry a relationship
07:22
Couples need to plan for their devils
12:27
A shared purpose keeps people together
16:13
Priorities govern a couple’s life
19:50
Repair before the memory hardens
24:37
Boundaries protect the community
32:28
Secure functioning is mutual care
34:53
Change the future to change the past
44:46
Never do relationship stuff by text
48:54
True incompatibility is wanting different futures
54:53
Curiosity is the flame
58:56
Partners can make each other worse
1:01:46
A relationship needs principles that cannot be violated
1:05:03
Touch toes, even when angry

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Designing love beyond fluctuating feelings
00:00
Repairing injuries and restoring secure partnership
19:39
Memory, communication, and compatibility
36:54
Keeping long-term love curious, cooperative, and secure
53:46

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Chris Williamson: Hello, friends. I'm bringing a brand new live show across the UK and Ireland this October. It's stories, psychology, audience Q&As, and whatever happens when thousands of overthinkers voluntarily leave the house and end up in the same roo...