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#237 - Chris Voss - How To Negotiate Like An FBI Agent

Modern Wisdom

2020/10/26
Modern Wisdom

Modern Wisdom

2020/10/26

Shownote

Chris Voss is the Ex Lead International Kidnapping Negotiator for the FBI, a CEO & author. Chris is someone who has negotiated under the highest imaginable pressure with kidnappers, bank robbers and terrorists. Expect to learn the single most powerful phrase in communication, how to say no more effectively, how to improve your confidence during a discussion, Chris' best strategies for de escalating a disagreement, his opinion on Trump's communication style and much more... Sponsor: Get 20% discount on Reebok’s entire range including the amazing Nano X at https://geni.us/modernwisdom (use code MW20) Extra Stuff: Check out Chris' Website - https://www.blackswanltd.com/home Buy Never Split The Difference - https://amzn.to/2HfLcNz  Follow Chris on Twitter - https://twitter.com/VossNegotiation  Get my free Ultimate Life Hacks List to 10x your daily productivity → https://chriswillx.com/lifehacks/ To support me on Patreon (thank you): https://www.patreon.com/modernwisdom - Get in touch. Join the discussion with me and other like minded listeners in the episode comments on the MW YouTube Channel or message me... Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/chriswillx Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/chriswillx YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/ModernWisdomPodcast Email: https://www.chriswillx.com/contact  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Highlights

Former FBI lead kidnapping negotiator Chris Voss shares insights from his high-stakes career, revealing that the true goal of negotiation is building better relationships, not winning. He explains how to use specific communication techniques to de-escalate conflict, build rapport, and achieve collaborative outcomes.
00:00
The goal of negotiation should be a better relationship.
08:53
Confidence is learned through practice, not innate
21:48
Saying no triggers collaboration and forced empathy.
58:34
Summarizing the other side's viewpoint always improves the situation.

Chapters

Why the Best Negotiators Don't Try to 'Win'
00:00
Are You a Fighter, a Fleer, or a Friend? Understanding Your Negotiation Style
05:45
The Magic of 'No' and How to Use a Calm Voice to Defuse Any Argument
21:48
The Two Words That Can Drop a Ransom from $10 Million to Zero
55:54

Transcript

Chris Voss: The guy on the other side is a sociopathic dude. He literally says, that's right. When we go into full summary. I don't know how long it took to do the full summary, but it took a while. It seemed excruciating on our end. A terrorist sociopath ...