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Esther Perel: Is your relationship “normal”?

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Dua asks beloved psychotherapist and podcaster Esther Perel all her burning questions (and some of yours, too!) about sex and dating, communication breakdowns in couples and how to fix them, how to keep curiosity alive in a partnership, and so, so much more. Whether you’ve never been in a relationship, are in a long-term partnership, or fall somewhere in between, Esther covers all your bases and then some. Throughout their conversation, you’ll hear Dua and Esther discuss practical advice and exchange real-world tips and tricks that you can take with you into your own relationships – including how to engage your partner in a dialogue about intimacy concerns, “freshening up” a relationship when you’re feeling its lulls, questions you should ask someone you’ve just started seeing, and more. And – spoiler alert – no matter what you are into, there’s no such thing as “normal” in a relationship! To get in touch, please send us an email to podcast@service95.com [podcast@service95.com] — and if you’re enjoying the show, make sure to subscribe so that you are the first to hear about any new episodes of At Your Service. You can follow @service95 on Instagram and Twitter for all Dua Lipa: At Your Service updates. To receive the Service95 newsletter, introduced each week by Dua, subscribe at www.service95.com

Highlights

In this episode, Dua Lipa sits down with renowned psychotherapist and podcast host Esther Perel to explore the complexities of modern relationships. They move beyond surface-level advice to discuss the deeper dynamics of intimacy, communication, and the evolving definitions of partnership, offering practical wisdom for anyone navigating love and connection.
03:55
You cannot want something more than the person themselves
10:01
Excitement often stems from the unknown
19:30
Monogamy was an economic system, not about love or sex.
32:10
Playful curiosity beats defaulting to screens.
34:52
Happiness has become a mandate, not an option.

Chapters

The Art of Helping: Why You Can't Want It More Than They Do
00:00
Ditching the Checklist: How Curiosity and Uncertainty Keep Love Alive
07:00
Beyond the Argument: Uncovering the Real Issues of Power and Trust
13:06
Rethinking Monogamy: From Paternity to Modern Exclusivity and Beyond
22:47
The Happiness Trap: Finding Balance and Asking the Right Questions
34:52

Transcript

Dua Lipa: Maybe it's just my algorithm, but I feel like social media recently is just video after video of so-called experts who promise that they can fix your relationship. I often think, what are these people's qualifications? And, honestly, does a good ...