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Coming Out After Marriage with Lia Childress

Made It Out
Lia Childress, a licensed therapist raised in a strict Pentecostal household, shares her deeply personal journey of self-discovery—how early curiosity about identity, layered experiences in faith and community, and courageous acts of honesty reshaped her life from the inside out.
Lia traces her awakening to queerness back to high school, where friendships with queer peers sparked early self-reflection—even before she named her own attraction. A pivotal season counseling at a Christian kids’ camp intensified her internal conflict between conservative theology and lived experience, leading her to re-examine biblical language and affirm that same-sex love need not contradict devotion to Jesus. The racial justice reckoning after George Floyd’s murder catalyzed a full spiritual deconstruction: she left her marriage, stepped away from rigid church structures, and embraced reconstruction rooted in authenticity. Rather than rejecting faith entirely, she wove together insights from Christianity and Buddhism—valuing questioning, embodiment, and spiritual harmony over dogma. Finally, she shares how emotional exhaustion in clinical work with marginalized communities led her to prioritize somatic awareness and self-trust, unlearning cultural messages that taught her to silence her body’s wisdom. Her story is one of continual release and reclamation—choosing truth, tenderness, and grounded presence over inherited expectations.
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Her family may have known her affinity for the queer community before she did
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They told their college sweetheart husband about their non-straight identity three years into their marriage, and he was supportive.
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Racial issues after George Floyd's death led to a personal breakdown and spiritual deconstruction
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A therapist friend shares her co-existence of being queer and loving Jesus
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In religion, people are often taught to trust externally, which can cause problems, especially for women.