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Why You're Smarter Than You Think

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Why You're Smarter Than You Think

Hidden Brain

Feb 16
Hidden Brain

Hidden Brain

Feb 16
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From the time we're schoolchildren, we're ranked and sorted based on how smart we are. But what if our assumptions about intelligence limit our potential? This week, we revisit a favorite 2022 conversation with cognitive scientist Scott Barry Kaufman, who ...

Highlights

This episode explores two powerful ideas about human potential: how rigid definitions of intelligence can obscure our true capabilities, and how radical acceptance—not fixing—can deepen love and connection in relationships.
13:01
His IQ score of 87–89 was presented as definitive proof he couldn't succeed academically, despite no explanation of its meaning or context.
19:08
With someone believing in him, he transformed from a C-D student to a straight A student
26:09
Alfred Binet created the IQ test for resource allocation, explicitly warning it was not for measuring innate intelligence
36:26
A paper shows zero correlation between IQ and artistic creative achievement
57:15
Lead with empathy and compassionate understanding when expressing needs instead of using accusations
1:04:00
Eating the blame is taking responsibility in a kind and wise way to deepen connections
1:14:03
Eating the blame is a spiritual practice to manage ego and enhance intimacy
1:24:09
Acceptance creates intimate safety where one can be their authentic self
1:30:26
Stepping back from relationship struggles frees energy for growth and reconnection

Chapters

What happens when a child's hearing loss is mistaken for low intelligence?
00:00
How did one teacher's belief change everything for a struggling student?
15:32
Why did Binet invent the IQ test—and what did Terman get wrong?
22:37
What kinds of intelligence do IQ tests completely miss?
36:26
When your partner processes emotions differently—how do you stop fighting and start connecting?
50:12
What does it really mean to 'eat the blame' in a relationship?
1:00:39
Is taking responsibility the same as surrendering your needs?
1:10:42
Why does giving space sometimes bring people closer than pushing for change?
1:21:13
How can remembering why you fell in love help you reconnect today?
1:30:26

Transcript

Shankar Vedantam: This is Hidden Brain. I'm Shankar Vedantam. Many of us know what it feels like to be overlooked. The school we would love to study at doesn't love us back. We get passed over for a job or a promotion. When we ask to try our hand at someth...