Alison Armstrong examines how traditional survival instincts shape modern relationship behaviors, revealing that women often seek safety through emotional attunement while men feel fulfilled through accomplishment and contribution. Attraction for men is rooted in a woman’s confidence, passion, and receptivity—not just appearance—and when these are missing, motivation to invest declines. A key issue is 'emasculation,' defined not as an attack on masculinity but as undermining a man’s ability to produce or provide, often through criticism, withheld needs, or lack of appreciation. Men retreat into self-protection when this occurs, disrupting their natural drive to procreate, protect, and provide. The solution lies in honest communication, earned trust, and recognizing complementary strengths. Women can support men by celebrating honesty and offering genuine appreciation without making them the sole focus. Ultimately, small shifts—like being a 'trim tab'—can create meaningful change, transforming relationships through awareness, empathy, and intentional behavior.