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Ep. 400 - How to Regulate Your Nervous System to Hold More Abundance

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You’re fine…so why do you feel stuck? Where is the fear coming from, even when you know you’re safe?  The truth is, lasting change requires more than mindset work alone. It means training your nervous system to build new associations with things that once felt uncertain or threatening. Today, Lacy, Jessica, and somatic expert Janelle unpack the true role of the nervous system in manifestation. They explore how your body's sense of safety determines when to shut down and protect you from potential threats—and when to expand, receive, and take aligned action towards your goals. Plus, the small, doable steps ("small steppies") that lead you back to yourself. If you've ever felt stuck despite doing all the inner work, this episode is your roadmap back to safety, embodiment, and sustainable growth. Want to know where you stand with your nervous system? Take our free Nervous System Quiz [https://tobemagnetic.com/nervous-system-quiz?utm_source=applespot&utm_medium=&utm_campaign=Ep400] and check the show notes for more DIs and resources inside the Pathway membership.  Find the complete show notes here -> https://tobemagnetic.com/expanded-podcast [https://tobemagnetic.com/expanded-podcast?utm_source=applespot&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=Ep400]   Resources:  Join our 7 Day Nervous System Reset (Pathway Membership Exclusive) Take the Nervous System Quiz [https://tobemagnetic.com/nervous-system-quiz?utm_source=applespot&utm_medium=&utm_campaign=Ep400]   Join the Pathway Membership with our Spring Sale! - https://tobemagnetic.com/ [https://tobemagnetic.com/the-pathway-membership#sale-pricing] Only $23/month now until April 5th at 11:59pm pst    Get the latest from TBM * Join the Pathway now [https://tobemagnetic.com/the-pathway-membership?utm_source=applespot&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=Ep400]- Return to Magic Challenge available now!   New to TBM? 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Highlights

This episode dives into why feeling 'fine' on the surface doesn’t always translate to feeling safe, capable, or open to receiving — and how that gap lives not in the mind, but in the nervous system.
09:49
A regulated nervous system isn't always Zen—it's the ability to move between sympathetic and rest-and-digest states with ease
15:48
Our nervous systems subconsciously self-sabotage when things get too good
24:38
Small Steppies help unregulated nervous systems align action with authentic choice—no pressure, just alignment
27:29
Some women need to get more comfortable with their fight response to become regulated and assertive
36:34
Phones are designed to hijack our brains
44:55
Suppressing fear during a sound bath led to back pain, revealing how unprocessed somatic tension manifests physically
49:55
Dorsal vagal shutdown is a protective state—not brokenness—and recovery starts with micro-movements and touch work
55:56
Reducing technology use and engaging in tactile activities like letter writing and knitting has led to more manifestation in life
1:02:07
Simple beauty practices expand the window of tolerance
1:07:43
Singing, even off-key, can release energy and make one feel better
1:10:33
The reset aims to bring the nervous system back to balance regardless of its state

Chapters

Why Feeling 'Fine' Doesn't Mean Your Nervous System Is Ready to Receive
00:00
What Does Real Regulation Actually Feel Like — And Why Stillness Isn't the Goal?
12:39
When Big Dreams Stall: What's Really Holding You Back?
18:40
How Your Past Shapes Your Present Capacity — And Why One Size Doesn't Fit All
27:29
Is Your Phone Quietly Sabotaging Your Safety — And What Can You Do About It?
36:34
Why Rest Isn't Lazy — And How Tiny Shifts Build Unshakable Self-Worth
42:17
What Happens When You're Too Tired to Fight — And How to Gently Come Back Online
47:33
Where to Start When Everything Feels Overwhelming — Without Adding More to Your Plate
52:59
Can Beauty Really Rewire Your Nervous System? (Yes — Here's How)
59:05
How Singing, Sunlight, and Snuggles Help Your Body Believe It's Safe
1:07:43
What If This Week Could Be Your Gentle Reset — Not a Grand Overhaul?
1:10:33

Transcript

Janelle Nelson: So, nervous system regulation being so in tandem with manifestation high self-worth is being able to have rest and have play. Lacy Phillips: Whoa, where's everything else playing into my nervous system that maybe doesn't need to be there? ...