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the ups & downs of a 7 year relationship

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the ups & downs of a 7 year relationship

soju with sarah

2024/06/28
soju with sarah

soju with sarah

2024/06/28
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todays episode is one about love! and all the trials & tribulations that come with it ~ we have a very special guest @jung.garments on the pod to chat about his (almost) 7 year relationship with our very own host, sarah! so grab some soju & popcorn because...

Highlights

This episode offers an intimate, unfiltered look at a nearly seven-year relationship—its origins, fractures, reinventions, and quiet resilience.
00:00
They planned to elope at the end of last year
00:35
Jung is formally inducted into the Soju Club with a custom guest mug
14:23
They had no ulterior motives at first, just hung out, had deep conversations, and bonded over their shared creativity
17:57
They texted 'I 1% like you'—a vulnerable, humorous admission that became their relationship's origin story
28:39
Neediness was valid because the situation had changed
36:37
A breakup served as the breaking point after prolonged long-distance strain
38:31
The pandemic caused their relationship to fall apart
40:11
Guys may feel they lose themselves in relationships around the one- to two-year mark
54:15
A mock Times magazine 'birthday of the year' email invitation included a custom pseudo-magazine spread
1:02:17
After the pandemic, they moved to New York as adults, lived apart for a year, and then moved in together
1:06:49
The speaker admits to developing codependency after moving in together
1:07:22
Codependency affected personal time, schedules, and productivity after moving in together
1:10:05
It took a year or more to overcome codependency, though glimmers remain
1:11:52
Moose had FIP and other medical issues, requiring daily injections, surgeries, and frequent check-ups
1:16:47
They don't get jealous of each other's successes—they're grateful for the learning and support they've given each other
1:23:50
They've gone through different attachment styles and are now both secure
1:26:01
Debates putting a crass joke in the bloopers after reaching a climax

Chapters

preview
00:00
intro & get to know us!
00:30
how we met
05:15
the 1% story
17:57
the first long distance
23:07
the second long distance
29:09
intermission
38:27
the pandemic: our biggest breakup
40:09
favorite presents!
52:00
family & culture
57:07
why we moved in together
1:04:15
struggling with codependency
1:07:19
maintaining individuality
1:10:01
parenthood & moose
1:11:48
the ~hustle & grind~ phase
1:16:41
marriage & beyond
1:21:17
bloopers
1:26:00

Transcript

sarah pan: sometimes crying, sometimes not crying. As we talked about our timeline. jung garments: There's no like ulterior motive of, like, wanting to get with you or something like that. sarah pan: It was truly the main reason we broke up. jung garmen...