The art of influence: The single most important skill that AI can’t replace | Jessica Fain (Webflow, ex-Slack)
The art of influence: The single most important skill that AI can’t replace | Jessica Fain (Webflow, ex-Slack)
The art of influence: The single most important skill that AI can’t replace | Jessica Fain (Webflow, ex-Slack)
Shownote
Shownote
Jessica Fain is a product leader at Webflow and former Chief of Staff to the CPO
at Slack, where she worked alongside April Underwood and many past podcast
guests including Stewart Butterfield, Annie Pearl, Tamar Yehoshua, and Noah
Weiss. She’s spent her career learning how executives actually make
decisions—and why most people completely misunderstand the process.
We discuss:
1. Why great ideas often don’t get buy-in
2. Why executive calendars are “like strobe lights” and why the first 30 seconds
of a meeting matter so much
3. Why executives are usually optimizing for a global maximum while you are
often optimizing locally
4. The best question Jessica uses when a leader says something that seems wrong:
“That’s so interesting. What led you to believe that?”
5. Why you should go in to learn, not to convince
6. Why showing only one option is a mistake
7. Why AI will make influence more important, not less
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Episode transcript:
https://www.lennysnewsletter.com/p/the-art-of-influence-jessica-fain
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Where to find Jessica Fain:
• LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jessica-fain-79b8989
[https://www.linkedin.com/in/jessica-fain-79b8989]
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In this episode, we cover:
(00:00) Introduction to Jessica Fain
(03:53) Why influence is the highest-leverage skill in product
(04:47) Why great ideas fail without executive buy-in
(06:00) How executives actually think
(09:05) The fundamentals: context-setting, communication, and empathy
(10:22) Stop pitching for approval—start co-creating with execs
(12:59) Influence vs. politics (and why people get it wrong)
(15:44) How to disagree with execs without losing trust
(17:20) Going in to learn, not to convince
(19:08) How to present ideas
(26:05) The Minto-style approach and tailoring your communication to each exec
(28:22) Why Jessica doesn’t like the question “What’s top of mind for you?”
(30:24) Understanding incentives to unlock buy-in
(32:10) Aligning product work with company strategy
(35:10) Quick summary
(37:31) Disarming the executive
(40:49) Speed matters: why fast follow-up builds momentum
(43:32) How to run high-impact meetings (the 60-second rule)
(47:00) Why influencing execs is part of your job
(49:15) Asking for more resources and thinking in 10x bets
(52:23) What to do when your idea gets rejected
(54:18) Clarifying information
(56:50) How to build trust and make ideas stick
(58:30) Shrinking big ideas into experiments
(01:02:27) Common mistakes people make when influencing leaders
(01:06:00) How to grow into your next role
(01:09:32) How AI is changing influence and product work
(01:17:55) Using AI to simulate exec feedback and improve pitches
(01:21:15) Protecting our brains from overwhelm
(01:22:44) Lightning round and final thoughts
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Referenced:
• Box: https://www.box.com [https://www.box.com]
• Slack: https://slack.com [https://slack.com]
• Brightwheel: https://mybrightwheel.com [https://mybrightwheel.com]
• Webflow: https://webflow.com [https://webflow.com]
• April Underwood on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/aprilunderwood
[https://www.linkedin.com/in/aprilunderwood]
• Lessons in product leadership and AI strategy from Glean, Google, Amazon, and
Slack | Tamar Yehoshua (Product at Glean, ex-Google and Slack):
https://www.lennysnewsletter.com/p/you-dont-need-to-be-a-well-run-company-to-win-tamar-yehoshua
[https://www.lennysnewsletter.com/p/you-dont-need-to-be-a-well-run-company-to-win-tamar-yehoshua]
• Atlassian: https://www.atlassian.com [https://www.atlassian.com]
• Behind the scenes of Calendly’s rapid growth | Annie Pearl (CPO):
https://www.lennysnewsletter.com/p/behind-the-scenes-of-calendlys-rapid
[https://www.lennysnewsletter.com/p/behind-the-scenes-of-calendlys-rapid]
• Calendly: https://calendly.com [https://calendly.com]
• Glassdoor: https://www.glassdoor.co.in/index.htm
[https://www.glassdoor.co.in/index.htm]
• The 10 traits of great PMs, how AI will impact your product, and Slack’s
product development process | Noah Weiss (Slack, Foursquare, Google):
https://www.lennysnewsletter.com/p/the-10-traits-of-great-pms-how-ai
[https://www.lennysnewsletter.com/p/the-10-traits-of-great-pms-how-ai]
• Ethan Eismann on X: https://x.com/eeismann [https://x.com/eeismann]
• Slack founder: Mental models for building products people love ft. Stewart
Butterfield:
https://www.lennysnewsletter.com/p/slack-founder-stewart-butterfield
[https://www.lennysnewsletter.com/p/slack-founder-stewart-butterfield]
• Ilan Frank on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/ilanfrank
[https://www.linkedin.com/in/ilanfrank]
• Checkr: https://checkr.com [https://checkr.com]
• Ali Rayl on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/alirayl
[https://www.linkedin.com/in/alirayl]
• Rachel Wolan on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/rachelwolan
[https://www.linkedin.com/in/rachelwolan]
• How Webflow’s CPO built an AI chief of staff to manage her calendar, prep for
meetings, and drive AI adoption | Rachel Wolan:
https://www.lennysnewsletter.com/p/how-webflows-cpo-built-an-ai-chief
[https://www.lennysnewsletter.com/p/how-webflows-cpo-built-an-ai-chief]
• Barbara Minto’s website: https://www.barbaraminto.com
[https://www.barbaraminto.com]
• How Slack invests in big little details through Customer Love Sprints:
https://slack.design/articles/sweating-the-small-stuff
[https://slack.design/articles/sweating-the-small-stuff]
• Building product at Stripe: craft, metrics, and customer obsession | Jeff
Weinstein (Product lead):
https://www.lennysnewsletter.com/p/building-product-at-stripe-jeff-weinstein
[https://www.lennysnewsletter.com/p/building-product-at-stripe-jeff-weinstein]
• The Enneagram Institute: https://www.enneagraminstitute.com/type-descriptions
[https://www.enneagraminstitute.com/type-descriptions]
• The Pitt on Prime Video:
https://www.amazon.com/The-Pitt-Season-1/dp/B0DNRR8QWD
[https://www.amazon.com/The-Pitt-Season-1/dp/B0DNRR8QWD]
• Towel warmer:
https://www.amazon.com/FLYHIT-Large-Towel-Warmer-Bathroom/dp/B0CB5K34L2
[https://www.amazon.com/FLYHIT-Large-Towel-Warmer-Bathroom/dp/B0CB5K34L2]
• Casa: https://getcasa.com [https://getcasa.com]
• Jimi Hendrix: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Jimi_Hendrix
[https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Jimi_Hendrix]
• Greek Theatre: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Greek_Theatre_(Los_Angeles)
[https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Greek_Theatre_(Los_Angeles)]
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Recommended books:
• Pachinko:
https://www.amazon.com/Pachinko-National-Book-Award-Finalist/dp/1455563927
[https://www.amazon.com/Pachinko-National-Book-Award-Finalist/dp/1455563927]
• Homegoing: https://www.amazon.com/Homegoing-Yaa-Gyasi/dp/1101971061
[https://www.amazon.com/Homegoing-Yaa-Gyasi/dp/1101971061]
• A History of Burning:
https://www.amazon.com/History-Burning-Janika-Oza/dp/1538724243
[https://www.amazon.com/History-Burning-Janika-Oza/dp/1538724243]
• The Overstory:
https://www.amazon.com/Overstory-Novel-Richard-Powers/dp/039335668X
[https://www.amazon.com/Overstory-Novel-Richard-Powers/dp/039335668X]
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Highlights
Highlights
This episode features Jessica Fain, a seasoned product leader who has worked closely with top executives at Slack and Webflow, unpacking the often-misunderstood dynamics of influencing leadership in high-velocity tech environments.
Chapters
Chapters
Introduction to Jessica Fain
00:00Why influence is the highest-leverage skill in product
03:53Why great ideas fail without executive buy-in
04:47How executives actually think
06:00The fundamentals: context-setting, communication, and empathy
09:05Stop pitching for approval—start co-creating with execs
10:22Influence vs. politics (and why people get it wrong)
12:59How to disagree with execs without losing trust
15:44Going in to learn, not to convince
17:20How to present ideas
19:08The Minto-style approach and tailoring your communication to each exec
26:05Why Jessica doesn’t like the question “What’s top of mind for you?”
28:22Understanding incentives to unlock buy-in
30:24Aligning product work with company strategy
32:10Quick summary
35:10Disarming the executive
37:31Speed matters: why fast follow-up builds momentum
40:49How to run high-impact meetings (the 60-second rule)
43:32Why influencing execs is part of your job
47:00Asking for more resources and thinking in 10x bets
49:15What to do when your idea gets rejected
52:23Clarifying information
54:18How to build trust and make ideas stick
56:50Shrinking big ideas into experiments
58:30Common mistakes people make when influencing leaders
1:02:27How to grow into your next role
1:06:00How AI is changing influence and product work
1:09:32Using AI to simulate exec feedback and improve pitches
1:17:55Protecting our brains from overwhelm
1:21:15Lightning round and final thoughts
1:22:44Transcript
Transcript
Jessica Fain: As product managers, one of our best sets of skills is curiosity and empathy, and trying to understand our users. But the moment that we're talking to an executive, we forget those skills and those talents.
Lenny Rachitsky: It's your fault i...

