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Ep. 81 - Shifting out of Lack Mentality & Into Deservingness - The Process with Heather Whitaker

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*Trigger Warning as this episode contains a conversation around an incident of assault, violence, and abuse. If you would like to avoid this section of the conversation, skip over minutes 11:40 - 14:00* “I was in this very dark place, and I had to make a choice. Was I going to stay in that darkness, or was I going to try to find light, and that there was a reason for this in some way?” - Heather “When I did Reparent, I realized that so much of my actions were coming from a lack mentality and low self-worth. I actually had to shift out of the lack mentality before I could even shift out of the low self-worth because that’s how embedded I was.” - Heather “I think that’s the biggest thing with all of this. Yes, I’ve been able to manifest tangible things, but this is less about manifesting things, and more about the fact that I had been keeping myself small for so long. With Lacy’s work, I’ve been able to increase my self-worth and my deservingness.” - Heather Pathway member, Heather Whitaker, joins us for a Process episode today. Heather was chosen to share her manifestation journey on stage at the speaking tour event in LA. After detailing her all of the actions she took to shift her worth, and sharing her long list of manifestations that have come through including her job, relationship, wedding ring, dress, venue, and house — Heather noted the most important change she experienced from this work was getting out of lack mentality and into total deservingness. This episode is filled with incredible insight for manifestors at any level. Also, enjoy listening in on some clips from the LA leg of the Manifestation Speaking tour! In This Episode We Talk About: * Some updates on Lacy’s journey with IVF * Heather’s unique experience at the speaking tour * The traumatic experience that led Heather to seek out Lacy’s work * Her early manifestation work, and her own switch from the positivity rhetoric to Lacy’s grounded method * Some of the blocks that came up for Heather while she was working through Unblocked Inner Child and enmeshment, and how this affected her relationship with her mom * How Heather crafted her first lists, by starting small and then growing more specific not only about what she wanted but how she wanted to feel * How she navigated some of these courses and the freedom that the Pathway allows for members to personalize the work for what they need * How this work helped repair the relationship with her and her now-husband * Heather’s mantras for people-pleasing and saying no * Some of Heather’s big expanders and their common characteristics * The evolving nature of expanders, and serving as our own expanders * Heather’s own process and awareness around passing tests * The importance of having community around this work to help reinforce magnetism * Allowing yourself to take an energetic break from doing the work * How every person has an individual process for this work but allowing yourself grace throughout the process * Looking ahead to 2020 and trusting herself without question * The infinite nature of this manifestation work * Heather’s advice for people that are new to the process and things she wishes she had known before starting Resources: * To Be Magnetic [https://tobemagnetic.com/] * Instagram: @tobemagnetic [https://www.instagram.com/tobemagnetic/] * The Pathway [https://www.howtomanifest.com/p/the-pathway] 2.0 use code EXPANDED for $20 off your first month of the Pathway 2.0 or $20 off any 2.0 ala carte courses! * A la Carte Workshops [https://tobemagnetic.com/manifestation-workshops] * The Forest Retreat [https://theforestretreathouse.com/] * Book Your Stay [https://www.airbnb.com/rooms/38153547?shared_item_type=1&sharer_id=289884988&source_impression_id=p3_1567562216_pnf0SxKpM6gZNvsy&virality_entry_point=1] * Instagram: @theforestretreathouse [https://www.instagram.com/theforestretreathouse/] * Newsletter [https://tobemagnetic.com/subscribe] * The Free Expander Mini Workshop [https://www.howtomanifest.com/p/expanders-mini-workshop] * The Motivation [https://tobemagnetic.com/motivation] 
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 In The Episode * Almost 30 Podcast episode with Lacy [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/ep-133-working-shadow-four-steps-to-magnetism-manifesting/id1148183612?i=1000416492040&mt=2] * Luke Storey’s Podcast episode with Lacy [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/manifestation-magic-missing-link-free-native-lacy-phillips/id1121467751?i=1000426038222] * All Workshops Found in: The Pathway 2.0 [https://www.howtomanifest.com/p/the-pathway] * Unblocked Inner Child (formerly Reparent) [https://www.howtomanifest.com/p/unblocked-inner-child] * Unblocked Money (formerly Opulence) [https://www.howtomanifest.com/p/unblocked-money] * Rockbottom [https://www.howtomanifest.com/p/uplevel] * Supported [https://www.howtomanifest.com/p/supported] * How To Manifest [https://www.howtomanifest.com/p/how-to-manifest] * Free Clarity Exercise [https://www.howtomanifest.com/p/free-exercise-get-clarity] * The Glossary [https://tobemagnetic.com/manifestation-glossary?rq=glossary] 
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Highlights

In this episode, a community member shares her powerful journey from a traumatic rock bottom to a place of deep self-worth and manifestation. She details the specific inner work that transformed her life, leading to tangible manifestations like a new home and relationship, but emphasizes that the most profound change was shifting from a scarcity mindset to one of total deservingness.
00:03
Do the hard work first to unblock energy for receiving.
11:13
A gift wrapped in shit
35:10
The real manifestation is increased self-worth and deservingness
50:59
You must believe you deserve what you want.
1:06:28
Material things are about the feeling and energy they bring

Chapters

From IVF Updates to a Member's Story: Setting the Stage for Transformation
00:00
Healing from Rock Bottom: How a Traumatic Event Led to Reparenting and Self-Worth
05:44
The Art of the List: Building Trust with Small Desires and Manifesting a House
25:58
Love, Ego, and Expanders: Navigating a Breakup and Redefining a Proposal
42:02
The Never-Ending Journey: Distinguishing Intuition from Ego and Embracing Growth
1:06:28

Transcript

Heather Whitaker: Whatever program that you don't want to do, do it first, because it's probably because you know that you've got some work around to do it. And that feels heavy. And the idea is, is that as soon as you can start unblocking the heavy stuff,...