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Why Habits Feel Hard with Charles Duhigg

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Why Habits Feel Hard with Charles Duhigg

Good Inside with Dr. Becky

Jan 06
Good Inside with Dr. Becky

Good Inside with Dr. Becky

Jan 06
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Dr. Becky and Charles Duhigg unpack habit science, why clarity creates hope, and how small shifts (better cues, named rewards, and repair over punishment) can lower tension and build connection at home - with your partner, your kids, and yourself. This epi...

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Exploring the science of habits and communication, this conversation reveals how small, intentional shifts can transform relationships and foster deeper connections within families.
04:58
About 40-45% of daily actions are habits, not conscious decisions.
09:40
Emotional rewards are more powerful than material ones in habit formation.
12:17
Actions feel 'for' a child when love and long-term benefit are explained.
17:11
The most powerful emotional reward is relieving tension, not making a sad child happy.
27:49
One person must make the first move to bridge the emotional gap in communication
32:46
Looping for understanding: ask, listen, and repeat back what you've heard in your own words.
39:55
Super communicators ask more questions early in challenging conversations
42:20
Super communicators ask 10–20 times more questions than the average person
47:07
Parents hope their kids will remember feeling supported and capable.
51:23
'The Reset' by Outward Bound USA encourages families to unplug screens for 24 hours on January 24th to reconnect.
52:23
The Reset is a 24-hour initiative on January 24th to unplug from screens and reconnect with family.

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How Habits Shape Our Daily Lives—and How to Change Them
00:00
Teaching Kids Responsibility Through Smart Cues and Emotional Praise
07:19
Is This for Me or to Me? How Kids Interpret Parental Rules
12:17
Why Emotional Safety Starts with Not Fixing Everything
17:11
When Talking Past Each Other: Matching Emotion Before Solving Problems
25:15
What Your Child Really Means When They Say 'You Hate Me'
32:46
Parenting Isn’t Innate—It’s a Skill You Can Grow
37:27
The Surprising Power of Asking More Questions
42:20
Raising Confident Kids by Wondering Instead of Directing
47:07
Why Lasting Change Starts with Understanding, Not Willpower
49:39
Can One Screen-Free Day Reconnect Your Family?
52:23

Transcript

Dr. Becky Kennedy: It's the new year, and I know for me, this is the time of year that I do, from a place of empowerment, not pressure. Think about habits, think about small things. I want to shift. And so there just couldn't be a better time to have a con...