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Ep. 197 - EXPLAINED Divorce and Relationships w. LMFT Janelle Nelson

This episode examines divorce, attachment wounds, co-parenting, and relationship healing with LMFT and EMDR therapist Janelle Nelson.
Jessica Gill, Lacy Phillips, and Janelle Nelson explore when divorce may be a healing or necessary choice, how trauma and attachment patterns shape relationship conflict, and how to make more conscious decisions about partnership and parenthood. They emphasize personal accountability, boundary-setting, therapeutic support, integrity during separation, and protecting children from being drawn into adult pain. The conversation also reframes divorce as something that can be courageous and aligned rather than shameful, while encouraging listeners to heal childhood relationship patterns and avoid settling for partners who cannot participate in mutual growth.
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12:41
Breaking down can lead to breaking through
20:08
20:08
Sometimes magnetism is in leaving
25:10
25:10
A child should be a conscious shared commitment
38:05
38:05
Healing makes peaceful clarity possible
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46:05
A partner does not have to be perfect, but they need to stay in process.
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50:21
Stay in your integrity
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57:36
Validate their reality without bashing the other parent
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1:07:55
Contempt is the greatest predictor of divorce
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1:18:41
Unmet childhood needs follow us into relationships