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The Gaslighting & Conversation Expert: This Is A Sign You’ll Divorce in 10 Years!

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The Gaslighting & Conversation Expert: This Is A Sign You’ll Divorce in 10 Years!

The Diary Of A CEO with Steven Bartlett

2025/12/22
The Diary Of A CEO with Steven Bartlett

The Diary Of A CEO with Steven Bartlett

2025/12/22
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Trial Lawyer and leading communication expert JEFFERSON FISHER reveals how gaslighting and narcissism work, why people don’t listen to you, and the courtroom tricks for respect and power! Jefferson Fisher is a Texas trial lawyer and leading communicatio...

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In this insightful discussion, trial lawyer and communication expert Jefferson Fisher unpacks the psychological dynamics behind powerful conversations, drawing from courtroom strategies to reveal how presence, authenticity, and emotional control shape influence and respect in every area of life.
02:56
The goal of conversation isn't to win, but to resolve—sometimes an apology is enough.
09:43
People look for an anchor in conversation who listens more and doesn't impose ideas
12:14
How an attorney walks away from a judge can signal confidence or defeat to the jury.
18:19
Aura is a frequency of peace that makes others feel comfortable
20:38
Authentic people are unrushed and don't need to prove themselves to others
22:45
Gaslighting involves making someone question their reality through manipulation.
30:08
Good liars can manipulate reality to the point of believing their own lies
36:58
Dealing with a narcissist involves limiting interaction and not playing their praise or provoke game.
41:48
Narcissists change their stance instantly when they think others disagree
48:26
Being unbothered is not indifference—it's self-understanding.
49:15
Knowing yourself prevents others' words from affecting you
53:51
Admitting your emotional state can build trust in difficult conversations
57:55
Men showing emotion can help women become more composed
1:08:17
Phone arguments are symptoms of disconnection; address the need behind the behavior
1:15:19
Having clear 'no's makes managing other aspects of life easier
1:17:20
Kindness requires truth; niceness avoids conflict.
1:25:25
Spending habits may stem from childhood lack and relate to self-worth.
1:33:23
'Bestie bombing' is a sign of insecurity, not manipulation.
1:37:27
Presence is the highest form of authenticity; people remember how you make them feel
1:42:05
Giving time feels like receiving; treating everyone equally benefits all.
2:01:20
Phones act as pacifiers that weaken real connection during conversations.
2:03:04
Phones have become an emotional pacifier, reducing face-to-face communication
2:07:21
True confidence means acknowledging one doesn't know everything, which makes one sound more genuine.
2:08:11
The ability to take time to think in conversations signals respect and confidence.
2:10:58
Calmness is contagious and helps others distinguish between minor and major issues.
2:26:08
Stay silent when insulted to make the aggressor reflect on their words
2:29:28
Asking genuine, curious questions can disarm an aggressive person by forcing them to confront their behavior.
2:39:50
Many divorcing couples fall out of communication, not love.
2:40:18
The way parents handle conflict—not their marital status—predicts child well-being

Chapters

Intro
00:00
These Communication Skills Will Change Your Life and Career Trajectory
02:56
How to Have Control Over Conversations
09:40
The Psychology Behind Feeling Comfortable in Any Conversation
12:14
How Your Body Language Can Influence Others’ Opinions
15:42
The Traits of Confident People
20:38
Dealing With Difficult Conversations and Gaslighters
22:40
The Words Gaslighters Use Against You
24:38
The Attachment Style Most at Risk of Being Gaslighted
31:00
This Is What Manipulators and Narcissists Do
39:19
How to Stop a Narcissist
42:55
Your Reactions Reveal So Much About You
49:15
How to Stop Being Easily Triggered
51:21
How Being Honest With People Can Help You
55:00
How Our Parents’ Arguments Shaped Our Love Relationships
1:00:34
Find Your Priorities and Set Your Boundaries
1:15:19
People Pleasers
1:17:20
Relationship Arguments: Can They Be Good?
1:23:01
A Big Indicator That Something Really Matters to Your Partner
1:25:24
The Secret to Spot Anyone Being Fake
1:33:19
The Fake Laughs
1:34:58
These Small Moments Will Have the Biggest Impact on Impressions
1:42:05
Top 5 Things to Become the Best Communicator at Anything
1:53:30
Phones Have Become Our Pacifier to Relieve Anxiety
2:03:02
Stop Overexplaining
2:04:25
The Power of Taking Pauses to Think
2:08:11
One of the Best Traits of Leaders
2:10:50
How to Help Someone Grieving
2:17:43
The Counterattack to Bullies: Expose Them
2:27:09
Huge Relationship Unlock: Energy Checking With Your Parent
2:34:22
The Predictor of Whether a Relationship Will Last
2:40:16

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Steven Bartlett: What are the five most important things for anyone who's striving to be a masterful communicator to get what they want out of life? Jefferson Fisher: The first is authenticity, and presence is the highest form of authenticity. Steven Bar...